All too often couples put off finding their wedding Officiant until the end of the planning process. It is important to take into consideration the importance of this role in your wedding day. Your Pastor, Minister or Officiant is the person who will stand before you to unite the two of you together in matrimony. It is this person who helps with your vows, signs your marriage license to make your marriage legal, and can help to include children in a blended family ceremony. Although a Justice of the Peace can provide you with a simple ceremony, they are more than likely less personal than working with an individual who will take the time to meet with you and get to know who you are to customize your ceremony prior to your wedding. That being said, your wedding Officiant can be, and SHOULD be an integral part of planning from the early stages.
Pre-Marital Counseling Is NOT Required
A note from Lorie Cooper, Master Wedding and Event Planner for 30 years…
Here are some often overlooked, important facts to consider when comparing prices and shopping for the services of your wedding officiate.
Ultimately, this person provides you the service that your entire day comes down to – seeing to it that you become man and wife. While so many times left until the last minute or not considered strongly enough, this is ‘where the rubber meets the road’ on your wedding day – so it deserves planning, serious thought of what you want in a ceremony and consideration of the person you will be working with not only on your special day, but the weeks leading up to your wedding for planning the perfect ceremony that will announce you to the world as a married couple!
Lets face it… You’ll try on what seems like 100 different dresses, interview many photographers, DJs, taste dozens of cakes and food samples and take the time to carefully select so many other vendors. It is equally important that you take the time to carefully choose an officiate as well. He or she must be not just a warm body with the same scripted ceremony used for 100 years, but a person that you can connect with emotionally, spiritually, personally… simply to trust and to feel comfortable with to be creative enough to take your ceremony to a whole new level – created JUST for the two of you, designed around each of you, and reflective of your relationship.
There is no greater compliment than being stopped by YOUR guests and told – “I’ve been to dozens of weddings, and I have NEVER heard a ceremony as unique as yours – it was a perfect reflection of the couple!”
Or, to be told by so many guests – “I know the ceremony was intended for the couple today, but your words touched the hearts of every couple in the audience and reminded us ALL of what true love means – THANK YOU for re-energizing our own vows vicariously through this couple today!”
So take a little extra time to find the PERFECT officiate for your wedding day. Can he bring you and your guests to tears of joy? Can he incorporate a sense of humor with a little stress-breaking giggle? Can he make each of your guests feel like they are an essential part of your ceremony? While cost is always a factor – consider the the end result. Reflecting back on your vows every passing year with fond memories of a beautiful ceremony and the reminder of the commitment you share is worth it’s weight in gold!
Best wishes on your journey together!